Biggest thing I learned in 2010

       YOU CAN'T GIVE WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE

        Like any busy mom, it's always easy to simply neglect oneself to make the kids the priority.  It's how funny how my life started to revolve around my children once they arrived.  It has been 7 years since I had my first born.  Four kids later, I realized that I'm slowly losing my "own unique identity".   I'm just somebody's mom.  Don't get me wrong, I always love being a Mom.  But as my kids grow and try to find out their own identities,  having my own "Me" is of great significance. 

       Am I just defined by the chores that I have to do?  Am I really happy just settling on what's available? Am I confident enough to do what I like?  Do I take care of myself?  Am I in control or overwhelmed?  Do I have time for friends? Do I have dreams and work my way towards achieving them?  Am I grateful and hopeful?  Do I read?  Have I accepted and celebrated my own individuality?  How do I show love?

        I can bombard my calendar with my kids' special classes, lessons and afterschool activities with hopes of them learning to be confident, hardworking, patient, and basically better persons.  But at the end of the day, it's what they see at home that matters the most. 

       
thanks Inkandiron for the photo :D